Prerana, Rajasthan, India

“ II really don’t think that at 30 somebody can feel old!”

Name :  Prerana Deora

Gender :  Female

DoB :  08.08.1983

City of Birth : Jaipur, India

Status :  Married

Family :  1 Brother 32yo

Hometown :  Galthani, India

Education : Psychology Master

Job :  Housewife

Religion :  Hindou

Politics :  –

As a child… How would you picture yourself at 30?

JOB – How did you decide to do this job?

I wanted to become an interior designer, because I liked it a lot. I love to place things and to coordinate them in a different manner. I also love sketching and decorating, so it was my dream job! But it shifted with time and I started to study psychology in college because I am very interested in people and I wanted to know what are their thoughts and to explain their acts.

I did not know if I would really work… Some in-laws could let me have a job, other could reject the idea…

But I did not know if I would really work… Some in-laws could let me have a job, other could reject the idea… And anyway it was also a matter of personal choice because I am the kind of person who prefers to dedicate to one thing and I would have to choose taking care of my home or having a job.

 

HOME / PLACE OF LIVING – Where you thought we would be living by now?

I did not really thing about where I would live because I actually would not have the choice. The place I would live would depend on the man I would marry because in India, women move to their husband’s family. Nevertheless I knew it would not be very far from my town.

Prerana and her husband Janak spending some time in their bedroom before going to sleep.

Prerana preying in an Hindou temple in the Rajasthan region.

Striking and memorable events…

IN YOUR PERSONAL LIFE – What are the most memorable event of your personal life?

My marriage changed my life and it made me learn many things. I got married in my hometown and the following day I was living at my husband’s with my new family. It was really the biggest change in my life. Our parents arranged our marriage and we never had seen each other before the ceremony. And even if we were in contact (by phone) over the 6 months before the wedding, the first hours we spent together were so weird… We both did not know what to say and could not say a word…
My wedding also changed my way of thinking because, at the beginning of our marriage, we did not have that bound that would enable us to interact and to understand each other. We had a lot of issues… but time taught me that things could not always be done the way I wanted because I was married and had to make compromises. I learned that I could do things that my partner wants me to do, and that he expects things from me.

IN THE WORLD – What are the main events that stroke the world you are living in?

India : I am thinking about an awful event that happened in December 2012… The rape and murder of a young woman in a bus near New Delhi. It was really awful and I could not get it out of my mind for long. I know that rapes happen everywhere but this one was just….

World : I don’t really watch news but when I remember that when I was a child, I was watching TV and that wall in East Germany was being put down… I asked my father what was happening because I could not understand. I could feel it was important… What was it? This wall was there, but people were putting it down… I remember there was a lot of people with happy faces… It was very intense.

BEST MEMORY – What is your best memory?

I find happiness in very small things… I remember many happy moments that happened during my childhood with my older brother. We would spend so much time together. For instance I remember one time we got to climb on the high shelves to get some digestive tablets for kids that our mother was hiding because we loved the taste. Oh, we did so many funny things!

GREATEST ACHIEVEMENT – I am proud that my mother in law thinks I am a good daughter in law. It is very important for me… It is the way for me to be accepted in this new family. And we share a very nice bound, which is not always the case. We talk and share our feelings a lot. I feel that I am doing my duties very well here.

Looking back / Reviewing expectations

10 YEARS AGO, I thought I would be married with children of course but I was not in rush for it. When I was in first year of college, my parents already started “hunting” for a husband. My father used to have a small diary with names… By chance I once stumbled upon it and I could read his notes… But I was lucky that it took years because I could finish my studies.
At 20 I was studying psychology but I knew that once I would be married I would dedicate my time to taking care of my home because like I said earlier I am the type of person who prefers to do thing perfectly rather than several things but not perfectly.

TODAY, I got married at 26 years old, which is quite late for India. Janak and I have been married for almost 6 years and do not have children yet because we are experiencing some complications.
I do not have what I can call a job but I am very happy that I can take of my home and I manage to keep my mind active with creative work : papier mâché, bags, sketches, bags… And actually I love that my mother in law supports me a lot in this path, for instance, we are talking about making a kind of exhibition of my bags.

Prerana cooking chapati with her mother in law.

Prerana and her husband in front or their home located in Galthani (Rajasthan).

30 years old, a turning point?

WHAT’S NEW? – Did you notice some changes since you are 30 YO?

No… Nothing!  It did not mean anything to me. I just live day by day. Maybe today my biological clock is ticking because I really want to have a child. Turning 30 may not mean anything because I never really had a plan in my head about how my 20’s should be, how my 30’s should be and so on… I accept and take everything that is coming to my life in a peaceful way.

I never really had a plan in my head about how my 20’s should be, how my 30’s should be and so on… I accept and take everything that is coming to my life in a peaceful way.

OLD OR YOUNG? – Do you feel « old » or « still young »? I don’t feel old!!!! I really don’t think that at 30 somebody can feel old! I feel young, maybe because I do not have child. But actually I even think the day I will become a mother it will fill me with energy and make me even younger.

CHANGES OR REGRETS? What are the things you would like to change? I am happy with every of the events of my life. Nothing happened that I really did not wanted. Even if everything did not happened as I thought, I always was able to make it work out.

My Values

My Typical day

And tomorrow?

YOUR STORY IN 10 YEARS – What is the story you want to tell within 10 years?

I recently talked with my sister in law who is 23 and about to give birth to her second child. She told me that she felt tired because she had a lot to take care of and that in 10 years she will be relieved. I started to think and told myself that in 10 years I would be the one who will have this tough job of bringing up children.
In 10 years I would really love to be the mother of 2 children and I also want to develop my creative work and hopefully be able to host a few exhibitions.

THE WORLD IN 10 YEARS – How do you imagine the world you will be living in within 10 years?

India : My country is currently witnessing a lot of terrorism, in Cashmere region for instance. I would love these issues to be solved. All this militancy brings unnecessary violence, people being killed for no reason…

World : Unfortunately I have the same feeling when it comes to the world.  Many country sin the world are facing similar problems and I do not understand why innocent people are being killed. I really hope that we will find a way to live peacefully together.

Fears and Dreams…

FEARS – What are you afraid of?

I love my husband a lot… So I fear that something will happen to him… I just want him to be with me.

 

ACHIEVEMENTS – What are the things you want to achieve?

I do not have any specific aim or goal… it is hard question for me…I guess that I would love to maintain this peace I have in my life, until the end…

 

DREAMS – What is your craziest dreams?

Going to a world tour ☺ This is really a crazy dream because we have never been anywhere with my husband and I would love to discover new places with him/

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