“Getting to my 30s, I really want to have children and I actually plan to.”
Name : Monique Forcioli
Gender : Female
DoB : 01.04.1985
City of Birth : Cape Town, South Africa
Status : Married since 2010
Family : 4 Sisters
Hometown : Cape Town, South Africa
Education : University, Sports science
Job : Baker
Religion : Christian
Politics : –
As a child… How would you picture yourself at 30?
JOB – How did you decide to do this job? When I was a kid, I really had no idea of what i wanted to do! When I grew up, I was into sports, so I imagined myself as a coach or a sports teacher. That’s how I became a biokineticist.
Today, I question myself a lot more than before. And that is the reason why I decided to change my career path.
HOME / PLACE OF LIVING – Where you thought we would be living by now? I have always imagined myself growing and living in my family, close to them. Except around the age of 18, when my older sister moved to England. I wanted to follow the family model so I did a summer camp in the USA to see how living overseas would be like.
Striking and memorable events…
IN YOUR PERSONAL LIFE – What are the most memorable event of your personal life? Wow… I have plenty! 1- When my parents got divorced, if affected me a lot and made me nervous about getting married myself. I remember that I really feared getting married because I didn’t wanted my marriage to be a failure… 2- When I travelled overseas and worked as a counselor when I was 18, I learned a lot about myself. 3- When I got married in 2010 as we worked a lot on knowing each other asking us the right questions. 4- When I travelled around the world, it was the moment when my eyes learned to appreciate and to marvel at new things every day.
BEST MEMORY – My best memory would be one of the biggest decision I made of my life… I grew up while receiving religious education from my family, I went to church a lot. Then, I decided – by myself – « to give my life to god », and that was my own decision.
IN THE WORLD – What are the main events that stroke the world you are living in? The main thing for me is when Nelson Mandela came into power in 1994. At that time, I did not understand the all significance of it but I knew it was really big (Monique was only 10 years old).
GREATEST ACHIEVEMENT – Generally speaking, I am proud to pursue what I really want to do in life. I do think that the easiest way is to follow the influence of your relatives. For example, I decided to quit my job and to start my own baking business because it was what made me happy… so why not?!
Looking back / Reviewing expectations
10 YEARS AGO… I thought I would be married, have 2 kids… work as a teacher in the sports area and that I would travel a lot.
TODAY… Well, I am married… and I have been traveling a lot. The main difference is that, today, I ask myself much more questions than before and I also think I know myslef better… This is the main reason why I decided to change my career path.
One of Monique favorite’s place is this view on Table moutains… The 12 apostles are a symbol of Cape Town.
30 years old, a turning point?
Getting to my 30s, I really want to have children and I actually plan to. We had this talk, Kevin and I, around a cup of coffee: « When do you want kids for real? » That is planned for next year, hopefully!
I don’t feel old or young, you’re getting older, for sure but I think you mustn’t regret to get older.
CHANGES OR REGRETS? What are the things you would like to change? When I was 16 or 17, I wish somebody would have gave me an insight … to make me study harder.
My Typical day
YOUR STORY IN 10 YEARS – What is the story you want to tell within 10 years? I will be a loving wife and mother of 2 kids and I’ll be working in my successful bakery.
THE WORLD IN 10 YEARS – How do you imagine the world you will be living in within 10 years? For South Africa, I hope that people will appreciate and value people differences. I wish the quality of living will increase and that the resources will be better divided between people. I only see education for all as the key success factor of it. People really need to go forward and stop referring to old quarrels…
Fears and Dreams…
FEARS – What are you afraid of? No, I am not afraid… I deal with events, I do not have a choice. That’s my philosophy of living. I think it’s pointless to have fears!
DREAMS – What is your craziest dreams? I want to open my own bakery shop. I can picture it in my head, I want something sweet and really pretty. (Smiles)